Does that seem to be a promotion campaign or a jingle from an award winning advertisement? (Britannia Khao world Cup Jao!) No… Certainly not.
It’s really getting complicated and more of business like. Do you love somebody for what s/he is or for what you or your peers want him/her to be?
We were fighting and she blamed me for being too idealistic and not being practical. She said… “Kamandal uthao aur Himalaya par jao…”
I think… if I just could fulfill her wish. But that would be escapism. The world hates escapists. But the world hates fighters too. If you succumb or don’t speak out… you are a loser. If you fight… you are a misfit in the society. Fighters are not liked as they disturb the social norms and peace… peace that prevails because of acceptance of all the wrongs… peace that prevails because of lethargy… peace that prevails because of subdued grudges. Peace that prevails because of Chalta Hai attitude. You have to be diplomatic. So what’s diplomacy? Diplomacy is not calling a handicapped a handicapped. Diplomacy is calling – physically challenged… Nay… that’s also derogatory. Diplomacy is calling them differently-abled.
“Never say no… say may be…” That’s again diplomacy. No one wants to hear a NO. Everyone wants assurances howsoever false they may be. The other person doesn’t want to break your heart by saying No. But he wants to keep the hopes alive. And when hopes are kept alive when you actually know that … that May Be was a NO, you don’t realize that you are harrowing the person. The person who doesn’t wants to hear a NO, allows himself/herself to be harrowed and hassled and just abide time. Eventual result is frustration and more frustration.
Wouldn’t that brash No had been better than that ‘May Be’ which actually meant No. Only false hopes were there.
But bhaiya you have to live in this society. You cannot change the society to your whims and fancies. Yes. We cannot. But actually in the heart of our hearts we all want to change the society. Then why cannot we change. Because we shirk from taking the first step. If some wrong is an accepted norm and it has been followed, sometimes it becomes a prestige issue… “What would the world say? It will call me a rebel. Then there are questions of “Akhir mujhe issi samaj mein rahna hai… inhi logon se vasta padta hai…”
But why are those people like what they are? Because we allow them to be like what they are. They know, there is little resistance. And that little resistance will die out soon. Some crossover to that side due to frustration and seek revenge… “Ab main bhee wahi karta hoon… jo mere saath kiya.” Some may take that kamandal and go to the Himalayas (You may read SUICIDE as well.) And then there are others who for their near and dear ones compromise and stay mum.
In all this blah blah I’ve realized one thing… A fighter is one who walks Alone. And to walk alone you don’t need to have peers with whom you are emotionally attached. You really need to be ALONE. Alone means – no friends, wife, parents, siblings, lovers, etc. Because you cannot make them the scapegoats. Because it’s you who chose to fight. Not they. You don’t want them to be involved but there are the ones who you are fighting against, who will bring in those relations and make them as the shield to fight against you… so either quit or walk alone.
What am I going to do? I really don’t know. Let me be diplomatic. May be… Now what that May Be means… is for open discussion. Let people interpret it the either way… Quit or Walk Alone. Because I really want to be diplomatic. So May Be…
I feel that Diplomacy is an art to leave things open-ended with hopes galore for everyone. After all there was Only Hope left behind in ‘Pandora’s Box’.